How much do you hate yourself physically?
Open your eyes to media and you immediately understand what
the media deems to be attractive physically.
What body types, colours and abilities are reflected in our wide range
of media outlets.
What we usually see;
·
White people (or predominately white features)
·
CIS people (identifying as the gender assigned
at birth)
·
Thin people
·
Able bodied
These then divide into how you can be attractive as a woman,
and as a man. Some features like being
tall are deemed attractive for a man to have but not a woman. In the same way having a high voice is
supposed to be desirable in women but not in men.
With all of these unwritten rules come expectations,
entitlement and inherent body shaming.
It’s seen that if you don’t have these qualities you must endeavour to
get them or apologise for lacking them.
Being happy isn’t good for the economy. If we were all happy it’d be pretty damn hard
to sell us things. We buy things in the
hope they will improve us, and make us in turn more attractive and
acceptable. The world tells us we need
plastic surgery, fake tan, make up, flawless skin, straight white teeth,
anti-aging creams, the latest trends and the list is endless.
Self-improvement is addictive. We’re never happy with ourselves and many
people want to sell us something that can help with that insecurity. Look at the success stories! Look how much
weight she lost, look how her life changed after that nose job she always
wanted.
I makes me wonder why we’re all striving to be attractive
instead of real. We say we want a
partner to accept us for who we are but we spend our lives trying to me the
best self we can. If we don’t try, we
feel like we’ve given up. Let ourselves
go.
The body positive movement to me has the same values as
basic intersectional feminism/equality.
All humans regardless of what way they look deserve to be accepted and
given opportunities.
We have grown up in a world that uses “fat” as an insult.
The truth is we all HAVE fat, in the same way we all have muscle, blood and
skin. I know many people are trying to
reclaim this word and use it as describing word but not a negative one. You can be fat and beautiful, you can be fat
and a model, you can use fat as a word without meaning it to hurt. Odds are it will though.
We have so many ways we can shame others for how they look,
and it’s easy. You can be too fat, too
skinny, lanky, short-arse, nose too big, too spotty, yellow teeth, wonky teeth,
no teeth, too hairy, too hairless and the list is endless. You can’t abide by all of these and if you
did it’d take money, plastic surgery and a hell of a lot of time. By the time you’re done you’re branded superficial
and vain. You need to be all these
things without trying or without looking like you are trying.
It’s exhausting and unattainable. The message I’ve picked up on all of this was
the question;
Aren’t you bored of hating yourself?
Aren’t you bored of hating yourself?
Which beckons the idea of self-love or at least
self-acceptance. It’s not easy but I
think it’s a worthy battle and moves towards the end of you being happy with
yourself – and fuck the rest of them who deem you be not good enough.
I think in order to put this way of thinking into action we
shouldn’t support the ideas that people should change. We should celebrate they way we are now, the
age we are, the things we can do now.
It’s natural to want to improve yourself, and work on things
but finding a way to be happy with what you have is important because you may
look back and think about how good that time was in your life. You don’t want to miss out on enjoying life
because you’re too busy wanting a smaller nose or waist.
People out there appreciate you for both the beauty in your
heart and physical self. Try and believe
it.
All my feelings,
J9
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